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I believe the word you want is 'rape'

Guards, we are told, have "engaged in sexual activity with a detainee" at Yarl's Wood, the Home Office immigration jail in Bedfordshire. (Trigger warning: includes account of an incident of rape. The link from ‘taxi ads’ contains a potentially distressing image.)

Wasi Daniju
1 November 2013

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I am so angry right now. Furious, in fact. That kind of anger that makes you feel like you’re physically shaking even when your body is still, that makes your hands hot, and your mind feel hectic to the point of being unable to focus on any other thing, your outrage snatching your mind right back to its source every time.

I’ve just read the Evening Standard’s article on the case of a 23 year old Roma woman raped by staff at Yarl’s Wood detention centre. Only here's the language they use:

  •             “Staff sacked over sex with detainee.” 
  •             “Two staff at a privately-run immigration removal centre for women have been fired for engaging in sexual activity with a detainee." 
  •             "A third employee at Serco-operated Yarl's Wood, in Bedfordshire, was also sacked for failing to take any action when the female detainee reported the two men” 
  •              “inappropriate sexual behaviour from guards”

There's an identical report on the BBC news website.

Nick Hardwick, HM Chief Inspector of Prisons, goes one step further:

             “two staff had engaged in sexual activity with a female detainee, something that can never be less than abusive given the vulnerability of the detained population”

but still holds back from calling it what it is (based on the descriptions given here): rape.

‘Rape’, along with the images it conjures, is an ugly, nasty word. Uglier and nastier still is the experience of each and every person who experiences it. Their experience warrants, at the very least, the respect and truth of being accurately labelled and recognised.

How can there be any justification in downplaying this woman’s violation to something that is made to sound more akin to a casual fling, a sexual encounter in which the woman involved had just as much say as the men?  That is, a vulnerable female detainee is presented as having had a choice in the matter of engaging in acts of sex with two men, staff involved in her detainment, who abused her (abusing their position of power over her at the same time). Are the Standard and BBC really suggesting that she had any element of consent?  Because that is certainly how their headline and description read.

As @HonestlyAbroad put it:

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According to the online Oxford dictionary, rape involves "forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will." I am not quite sure how in any way this case does not fit this definition.

Such reporting adds to the victim blaming that continues to surround rape and sexual abuse, downgrading both the offence committed and the abuse experienced by this woman, as well as implicating the woman who was abused. I can only assume that the thinking behind this (i.e. that there is any element of consent or blame attributable to this woman) is the same that continues to imply and/or state that victims of abuse are in any way complicit in their experiences.

Over the past few years, I have spoken to a number of women who have experienced rape and other forms of sexual abuse. In so many cases, despite rationally knowing they were not responsible, they still held an element of guilt, believing they allowed it to happen, didn’t do enough to prevent it, or did something to ‘ask for it’.

A friend told me that many years ago she was raped by a former partner. For years, she lived with the knowledge of what had happened, but with no definition for it. It couldn’t be rape, because they were in a relationship, because they’d had consensual oral sex before, because she didn’t report it afterwards - and all the other reasons offered to victims of abuse, convincing them they are either exaggerating or permitted what happened to them, or both.

And yet she continued to be triggered by even just the word ‘rape’, finding herself distressed whenever she came across reports of other victims, but unable to explain to herself why she should be.

My friend told me: 

"Like many rape victims I did nothing to stop my rape. I just froze. I only just found out that it's common and an involuntary reaction. Also I found it hard to piece together the memory the next day - another involuntary thing the body does when it goes into tonic immobility...we'd had consensual sexual experiences before and had oral sex, but I'd been clear that I didn't want to have proper sex and lose my virginity before marriage. So when he raped me with anal sex I didn't know whether or not it was rape and I didn't know whether or not I could still call myself a virgin."

It was only recently that she learnt that what happened was actually rape - that the ‘reasons’ for why 'it couldn’t be' were false, and that rape was its true name. Despite the horror of the event itself being in no way diminished by this new knowledge, the relief - of finally knowing she had reason to be distressed and that her feelings of being violated were not just in her mind, were not her ‘mis-reading’ the event - has been immense and empowering.

Caitlin Moran’s vile comments about women wearing high heels alerting potential rapists; ‘safety advice’ which basically reads as "if you don’t take these precautions, you have yourself to blame", judges who attribute a portion of the blame to victims of rape, even taxi ads - these and numerous other examples demonstrate thinking that bolsters the implication that rape can ever be even the slightest responsibility of the person raped, rather than the rapist themselves. This insidious and harmful trend of victim-blaming is not ok at all, and has got to stop. (Rape Crisis Scotland shows how rape safety advice should work).

There is no place whatsoever for diminishing rape, and no justification for presenting it as something other than it is. Rape should be given its proper name, and never presented as anything that could be even remotely mistaken for consensual sex.


This article first appeared on Wasi Daniju's blog.


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