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‘We just got left’: How children of prisoners are abandoned by the state

The government has no statutory duty to identify or support children whose parents are in prison. Why not?

‘We just got left’: How children of prisoners are abandoned by the state
As it stands, the state has no obligation to support children with parents in prison | Richard Bailey / Getty
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  • Warning: contains references to suicide

Discovering a child is living by themselves while their parent is in prison is not an unusual occurrence for Sarah Burrows. Sometimes it'll happen once a month. But in January last year, the founder of charity Children Heard and Seen (CHAS) was alerted to five separate cases across England and Wales.

One was a 15-year-old boy, who had been alone for months – with no gas or electricity – after his mother had been jailed. Another time, a victim support officer visited the home of a teenage girl, only to find she had been alone since her father’s arrest. A third time, a criminologist visiting a house for research purposes found just children living there. And so on.

It’s why Burrows set up the charity in 2014. It’s the 21st century, she says, “how is it possible that there are children living alone?”.


If you or someone you know are feeling emotionally distressed, the following organisations offer advice and support.

Samaritans

Available for anyone struggling to cope. They provide a safe place to talk 24 hours a day.

Phone: 116 123. Website: Samaritans

Shout

A 24/7 text service, free on all major mobile networks, for anyone struggling to cope and in need of immediate help.

Text SHOUT to 85258. Website: Shout

Papyrus

Support, practical advice and information to young people considering suicide and can also offer help and advice if you're concerned about someone you know.

Phone: 0800 068 41 41. Website: Papyrus

Lifeline

Support to people suffering distress or despair in Northern Ireland, regardless of age or district.

Phone: 0808 808 8000 (24 hours a day). Website: Lifeline

Community Advice & Listening Line

Emotional support and information on mental health and related matters to people in Wales.

Phone: 0800 132 737 (24/7) or text "help" to 81066. Website: Community Advice & Listening Line

Breathing Space

Confidential phone and web based service for people in Scotland experiencing low mood, depression or anxiety.

Phone: 0800 83 85 87 (Mon-Thu 6pm-2am, weekends 24 hours). A BSL service is also available via the website: Breathing Space

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Exists to meet the needs and break the isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close relative or friend.

Website: Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Nightlines

Confidential, anonymous, non-judgemental support services run by students for students.

Website: Nightlines